Southern gentlemen. You know the kind. Those strong, hospitable, well dressed, handsome men who always open doors for ladies, listen intently while looking into your eyes, flirt shamelessly and are always respectful. We’ve seen them in movies, but do they really exist? Absolutely!
I had the pleasure of spending time with a tried and true Southern gentleman recently. He rushed to open every door for me, showered me with polite compliments, truly listened when I spoke, and not only made sure that my every need was met, but anticipated my needs before I uttered a word. I admit I was smitten with this charming Rhett Butler-in-shining-armor.
With their unique balance of confidence and humility, manliness and manners, a true Southern gentleman is a rare find here in the Northeast. In Boston chivalrous men are about as common place as Yankees fans– you just don’t find too many of either in Boston. Why is this? Is it because women have become so liberal that we simply expect less out of men in an effort to exert our independence? Is it because Northern men have become so Metrosexual that they have forgotten how to be strong, assertive, polite men without acting like a jackass?
A couple years ago, Dockers launched a campaign for their new soft khakis with a “Man-ifesto” about how “once upon a time, men wore the pants.” The ad was described by many in mainstream society as sexist, but the fact is that the adis 100% true! Just as the ad states, ince upon a time women rarely had to open doors and men took charge because that’s what they did. Ladies, when did we stop letting men be men? We all claim that we want to find a “nice guy”, but we are so drawn to the “bad boys” who treat us like shit. On the rare occassion that we do find a nice guy we don’t know how to respond to their naturally caring and gentlemen-like behavior and we go running to the first bad boy we find. Is it because we think we can change the bad boy into part nice guy/part bad boy?
Personally, I am going to enjoy my little taste of “Southern hospitality”, test some theories and see what transpires.