On a first date, or even at the very beginning phase of dating someone new, you’re both full of questions and trying to get to know this new person. Where did you grow up? Do you have siblings? What do you do for work? But what about the little details? What about knowing the person’s favorite color? Favorite book or movie?
How important are the little details about your partner in a relationship?
Lately, I’ve been thinking about how little Mr. Sports Fan and I really know about each other. Sure, we know the big things (like the things listed in this Quiz or this list), but I’m talking about the little details about each other. He’s pretty good at reading my moods, and I his. We each know about the others childhood, family dynamics, funny stories and mischief we’ve been involved in. We know each others’ birthday (mostly because we are exactly 2 years and 1 month apart) But is that enough?
While we do share details about our past selves with each other, what about the little details? He doesn’t know my favorite book (To Kill A Mockingbird), movie (Grease), color (purple), flower (sterling roses), smell (fresh gardenias)… nor do I know his. But does that really matter right now?
Maybe it’s just me, but those little details seem so insignificant in the grand scheme of things. But then again, what do I know?! After all, I’m just a commitment-phobic single girl who unintentionally fell into a relationship with an equally commitment-phobic man. Besides, we have plenty of time to learn these things about each other.
Your turn: Do you think the little details are important in a relationship? Why or why not? If yes, how important are they?