Dating is simple, right? Person A sees person B. Person A thinks, “Wow! he/she is hot!” Person A walks over to Person B and says hello. Person B is smitten. Person A and Person B start dating, fall in love and live happily ever after. Simple, right? WRONG! In real life dating is anything but simple. Real life dating is filled with online dating apps, singles events, dive bars, drunken nights, stupid decisions, jealousy, rejection. Well, you get my point. Most important, dating is filled with annoying habits—theirs and yours! So, as a public service announcement to the big, wide world of singles out there I have a message: If you are dating, stop doing these annoying things right now!
Annoying Things When Dating
When technology crept into dating, it drastically changed the dating game forever! With that change came some really freakin’ annoying habits that we are all guilty of. Here is a list of annoying things you (and we all) need to stop right now!
- Using your Phone on Dates: I’m guilty of being on my phone when I probably shouldn’t—Twitter, texting, Instagtam, Tinder…the list goes on and on. Whether you’re checking email, taking a call, checking your texts or seeing if there is someone better nearby, using your phone while you are on a date is probably the most annoying thing you can do. It tells the other person they aren’t worth your time and attention. Do you want to get laid, or even a good night tongue wrestling, at the end f the date? Then put the damn phone down and pay attention to the person you are on a date with. The Twitterverse can wait!
- Inability to Commit to Plans: Again, I’ll admit that I have been guilty of this from time to time. I don’t want to commit to plans with Guy A because Guy B or C might have something better to offer and I’m holding out. But if Guy B or C don’t come through, I’ll totally take Guy A up on his plans. See how douchey that sounds? But this inability to commit isn’t just about our weekend plans. Our fear of commitment because something better might come along trickles over into our dating relationships in so many ways. We steer clear of labeling whatever we are doing with another person (are we dating, are we friends with benefits, are we in a relationship, blah blah blah) because we fear we are missing out on something or someone better.
- Ghosting: You may not be familiar with the term, but I’m sure you are familiar with the act. Ghosting is when someone suddenly stops all communication with someone you’ve been dating. It’s basically a pussy way of ending things, but you leave the other person wondering what the hell is going on.
- Online Only Communication: You meet someone via an online dating site or app. The two of you exchange several messages back and forth and a couple weeks have gone by. Then, one of you asks the other to take it off line (either texting or meeting up). Unless you are looking for a pen pal or you have something to hide (cat fish anyone?) there really is no reason to continue wasting time with someone who has no intention of taking your communication offline. If you aren’t comfortable giving out your number to a perfect stranger, that’s fine. But at least agree to meeting for a quick coffee on your lunch break or something else public and casual. Online dating sites and apps are a great tool, but they are meant to help you meet someone you could date…IN REAL LIFE! Take it offline!
- Social Media Stalking: I’m sure we’ve all Googled at least one potential partner in our dating careers. But when a little safety research turns into an all out investigation before and during your dating experience with someone, you’ve crossed the line into Crazy Town. Don’t be that insecure person who is constantly checking your dates social media accounts. Who cares if they commented on a friend (who happens to be the opposite sex) status or tweet?! If you can’t trust this person then you shouldn’t be dating them… or maybe they shouldn’t be dating you!
- Naked Pics: Sexting and sending sexy pics in the context of a relationship and when they are mutually acceptable can be an awesome way to keep things hot and kinky in your relationship. But sending unsolicited dick pics is just gross! And if you are serious about finding a relationship and you send him pics of your tits and ass, he won’t take you seriously. You’re just a piece of as at that point. Remember, once it’s out there, it’s out there forever!
- Not Responding for Long Stretches: Life happens. I get it. And sometimes you get caught up with life and either forget to answer a text or just can’t get to it in a timely manner. But when you see a text come in and you purposely decide not to answer it, making that person wait hours or more in between responses, you’re a dick. Plain and simple. That’s some kind of crazy-ass, passive-aggressive bullshit and it’s childish. If you aren’t caught up with work and are otherwise available to respond, then do it. Don’t be a dick.
- Leading People On: Plain and simple—if you aren’t that into him/her, tell them! Don’t lead someone on for your own selfish, twisted reasons when you really don’t like them.
- Too Much Too Soon: Whether it’s giving a person every detail of your life story on a first date, or it’s labeling you as an exclusive couple after the second date, there’s such a thing as too much too soon. Slow your role, don’t be a cling on and relax. Dating is a process, not a race. Not every first date is going to become a relationship and there is plenty of time to get to know each other.
- Last Minute Bailout: You make plans with someone. You confirm the plans a day or 2 ahead of time. And then? Some random and obviously fake ass excuse is sent via text. How many times can your Grandmother die? And if your BFF is that needy that she can’t survive one night without you, you have issues. Bailing on someone at the last minute is not only annoying, but it’s a real asshole move. Sure, real emergencies and last minute stuff happens. That’s life. But do your best to let the other person know ahead of time—and not an hour before your supposed to meet!