Are You An Alpha Or an Asshole?



Strong. Confident. Secure. Sarcastic. Independent. These are just some of the qualities of someone with an alpha personality.

Dominant women are all of the above and then some. They are a force to be reckoned with! Dominant women know what they want and how to get it. This is true of every aspect of their lives, professional as well as personal. We work harder, play harder, know ourselves, know what we want and don’t take shit from anyone. we say what we mean and mean what we say and if you don’t like it, fuck off, because we don’t care. As an alpha female, I tend to chew men up and spit them out. I find it difficult to find a man who can keep up with my constant energy, and stimulate me intellectually as well as sexually. It’s rare for me to find a man who not only suits my needs and holds my attention, but who also isn’t afraid of a dominant, alpha female and doesn’t view her as a bitch.

Dominant men are fearless, confident without being cocky, quick witted, and there’s no bullshit. They may have a sweet, squishy side on occasion, but they are rough and tough to the core! They are typically high powered, driven types who comes off as arrogant assholes when you first meet them. Mr. Sports Fan is an alpha male; the most dominant man I’ve ever come across! It’s sexy as hell, let me tell ya!

He comes off as an asshole and I come off as a bitch. Sounds like a match made in heaven doesn’t it? (insert eye roll here) But under our dominant outsides, way, way, way down, we are both actually very sweet and caring people would give anything and everything for the people in our lives. We are constantly going above and beyond to help friends, co-workers, family, etc… This is a personality trait that he and I share and I don’t view it as weakness at all, most of the time.

Sexually, I have to admit that our sex life is hilarious at moments. We are both so dominant that we have power struggles in the middle of sex. I’m on top, no I’m on top! Get on your knees, no you get on you knees and kiss my heels! I’ve never laughed so much during hot, kinky sex in my life. And let me tell you… this is the hottest, kinkiest sex I’ve ever had!

So how do you know if someone is an alpha or an asshole? Simple. A true asshole, male or female (or bitch if you prefer for the females), is cold-hearted, self-centered and doesn’t give a shit about anyone’s happiness but their own. An asshole is obnoxious, rude and just downright mean. A person who is an alpha will often come off to weaker people as an asshole or a bitch, but that’s because people with beta personalities are intimidated by an alpha person’s dominance and strength. But that’s what makes those people betas and  not alphas.

The next time you meet someone with a strong personality, don’t automatically assume that he is an asshole or she is a bitch. Not everyone pussy foots around the truth, strokes your ego and tells you what you want to hear. Some of us have a backbone. So either grow a set and deal with it like a grown up, or decide that you are too much of a beta to have anyone with a strong personality in your life.

Your loss!



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  1. I’ve known too many assholes (and bitches) in my life. I know when what I’ve found is a true alpha male. And let me tell you, that’s what I want!!

  2. I am extremely attracted to the Alpha male; and yes, I know that my man at times appears to others to be an asshole. I may not be as assertive or Alpha-like but I definitely know how to handle an Alpha male! So, does the make me an undercover-Alpha-bitch? LMAO! Loving the post!

    • HAHA Marrie! “undercover-alpha-bitch” I love it!! You need that T-shirt! 😉 I like men who are men! I don’t want a guy who wants to go shopping with me and is metro-sexual. While I enjoy looking at those men (and oh boy do I) they just aren’t enough for me. I tend to chew them up and spit them out on their tight little tushies 😉

  3. I’m a self-confessed alpha-male-aholic. I gravitate to alphas like bees to honey. You’re right there is a difference between Alphas and Assholes. I appreciate people who tell it like it is and are assertive because that’s how I am. You’ll always get the truth from me, like it or not LOL Great post!

    • Thanks Single Dating Diva 😉 I am absolutely the same way. I don’t sugar coat shit for no one, this ain’t a candy factory! lol I’ve dated way too many beta men and it never works out. While it’s a challenge for two alphas to be in a relationship, it’s sexy as hell 😉

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