Does Watching Porn Ruin Your Sex Life?

Don’t tell me you don’t do it. Of course you do it. We all do it. Everyone watches porn at some point in their lives and if you say you never have then you’re a fucking liar! Some of us (like moi) love it and watch it all the time. It appeals to our voyeuristic side, it’s a dirty little secret that we like watching other people have sex. But can watching porn ruin your sex life?

I love watching, and being watched, whether it’s  live or a film; it turns me on! As much as I love it though, I don’t have to watch porn in order to get off. I think once you need to have a particular fetish in order to get off, then it becomes a problem. Sure, I’d absolutely leave any man I was with if Jenna Haze, Allie Haze, Johnny Castle or Seth Gamble said they wanted me all for their very own (hint, hint guys and gals), but I don’t need porn in my life in order for me to have an orgasm and be sexually satisfied.

The thrill of watching and being watched is something that Mr. Sports Fan and I share (yay!) and as much as we love watching our favorite porn stars in action, we also enjoy watching each other in action. Now I know that this kind of kinky pleasure, watching your partner fuck someone else, isn’t for everyone, but if you talk openly about your fantasies with your partner you may find that you have some in common. What better way to enjoy sex with your partner than to live out a fantasy or fetish that you both have?!

If watching porn starts taking over your sex life and you have to watch it or have it on in the background in order to get your rocks off, then it can become a problem. If your partner doesn’t share in the same need, then you can potentially ruin your sex life. Ask yourself:

  • Have you lost interest in sexual encounters with real people? (basically do you prefer to get your jollies from porn rather than actual real live humans?)
  • Has your ability to perform with a partner decreased, and there is no medical reason (medications, mental health, physical health, etc)?
  • Is it near impossible for you to reach climax with a partner unless porn is involved?

If you have answered yes, then you are likely addicted to porn and it is ruining your sex life. Don’t fret my kinky friends, there’s a cure! And it’s simple, though it takes a lot of restraint, and I don’t mean the BDSM kind either.

The answer to getting your groove back is to go on a no porn diet for approximately 6-12 weeks, according to a recent article in Psychology Today. Yup, 6-12 weeks without peeping at others doing the nasty, and without masturbating.

Damn!

In general though, watching porn is just good, old fashioned, harmless fun! Those articles in Cosmo that say watching porn destroys a woman’s sexual confidence are pure bullshit! That’s like saying the Victoria’s Secret ads are responsible for all poor body image issues among women, or that viewing any model walk down the run way is the absolute cause of eating disorders. I mean I could play this game all night people, but I’m sure you get my point— one does not absolutely cause the other.

Fantasizing about other people, watching other people either alone or together as a couple, even acting out your favorite scenes— it’s all harmless until it  becomes more than just good, dirty fun. Only you can be the judge of what’s OK and what’s not.

While you sort it all out, I’ll be over here watching my favorite Penthouse scene of Jenna Haze in an all-girl threesome.

~XOXO

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6 thoughts on “Does Watching Porn Ruin Your Sex Life?

  1. I think that too much of anything can ruin any enjoyable event. Watching too much porn could overstimulate a person to the point that actual sex bores them, I guess. I don’t watch porn much, but when I do watch it’s enjoyable (if there’s not too much overacting – LOL). If given a choice I’d rather watch amateur vids than a movie with pros. I like the imperfection at times.

  2. I really like what you said about being able to share a fetish or fantasy with your partner…being open about what we like is so important in order to feel satisfied…and when we’re satisfied in our sex life…everything else seems so much easier to deal with, wouldn’t you agree? Awesome post!