We are often made to feel like the label “single” is a dirty word, yet according to the most recent Singles in America study nearly one-third of the adult population in the United States is single. The fact is there are more singles in America than there are married people! In 1950, married couples represented 78 percent of households in the United States. In 2011, the US Census Bureau reported, that percentage had dropped to 48 percent. In 2014, the Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that 124.6 million Americans 16 years and older were single, or 50.2 percent of the population, compared with 37.4 percent of the population in 1976.
So, what does all of this mean and why is it important?
For six years in a row, Match.com has surveyed over 5,500 singles in America for their annual Singles in America study to, “shape, confirm and shatter the perceptions of what it means to be single.” This past Saturday, I gathered up some friends, poured some cocktails and tuned in to the Singles in America livestream to catch all of the juicy results of the study.
RHONY’s Carole Radziwill spoke with Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist and Chief Scientific Adviser to Match, about the survey and the results of the study during the livestream at The Rickey at Dream Midtown . Everything from do’s and don’ts on a first date, to how to increases your chances of a second date, to sex and even politics was discussed.
The survey polled American singles ages 18 to 70+ years old and found that “Baby boomers are having more and better sex than the Millennials”. According to Dr. Fisher, the older we get, the more comfortable we are in our own skin, with sex in general and with asking for what we want. Long time readers here at Boston Single Girl know I have no problem asking (or demanding) what I want when it comes to sex! I think it’s important to be comfortable in your own skin. Not only will it make your dating and sex life better, but it’s a huge ego boost. Go forth and be confident in who you are!
Some facts that I found interesting from the study:
- Individuals who are passionate about political issues have better sex, with 13% more orgasms; they are also 32% more likely to experience multiple orgasms. The moral of the story–want better sex and better orgasms? Don’t cast aside the guy or gal who displays their passion for politics on your date. Instead, get them in the bedroom where they are likely to be just as passionate!
- Not feeling those fireworks or butterflies on the first date? 59% of singles in America do not expect to feel chemistry until the second date, and over a third of singles don’t expect passion until the third date or later.
- It’s a no brainer that talking about past relationships on a date is a recipe for disaster. 14% of singles will discuss an ex on a first date and asking about sex with an ex will decrease your chance of a second date by 40%….DUH!
- Want to increase your chances of a second date? Eat a meal together on your first date! Eating sushi on a first date increases your chances of a second date by 170%. You should also take note of what beverage you order— soda/iced tea is ordered by 29% of singles yet ordering a cocktail (not beer or wine) will increase your chances of a second date by 137%!
- And what about the recently popular coffee date? 60% of singles prefer to go on a date in the evening, while only 22% prefer a date in the afternoon, with Saturday being the best date day (39%)
- And the dreaded “who should pay” question has finally been answered! 50% of men and 36% of women agree that a man should pay on the first date.
This being an election year, I found it interesting to read the dating differences between the political parties. Democrats who talk about marriage on a first date are 64% more likely to get a second date, while Republicans are 122% more likely to increase their chances of a second date if you go to an expensive restaurant on the first date. When it comes to S-E-X, Hillary supporters are more likely (102%) to lie when asked, “what’s your number”, while 99% of Trump supporters are more likely to film themselves having sex. And they say sex and politics don’t mix!
I think my favorite piece of information that came out of this year’s Singles in America study was, “Men are just as romantic as women and women are just as sexual as men.” BAM! There it is!
What do you think of the results of the 2016 Singles in America survey? Do you agree or disagree with the findings? Share your thoughts, I love reading your comments!