When it comes to online dating, it’s so easy to skim through profile after profile, swipe past people who we aren’t immediately visually attracted to, or turn down (or outright ignore) messages from people we may consider to be a “maybe” rather than a “yes”. But what’s so wrong with saying yes to someone you may not ordinarily say yes to? To get that answer for you, I went to one of the top online dating experts in the country, Laurie Davis. Laurie is the founder of the online dating concierge service, eFlirt, and the author of Love @ First Click: The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating. She is married to her tweetheart who she eFlirted with in 140 characters. I met Laurie initially on Twitter as a fellow dating blogger. Since she’s a local girl, we decided to take our own advice and take our online relationship offline—we met for a drink at a Boston bar and discussed everything from our admiration for each other, to online dating, to her book and my very own “it’s complicated”. So, without further delay, I give you, Laurie Davis…
When online dating, your love life is defined by who is in your inbox. When I first started eFlirt, I was surprised to find that most of our clients fall in love with those who they categorize as “maybes”—matches they may have otherwise passed over based on their profile online.
In my TEDx talk, I explain why this happens—and how you can search differently and find your maybes when digitally dating.
What are your thoughts on Laurie’s advice? Have you ever said “yes” to someone when you thought “maybe”? Will you be saying yes instead of maybe in the future?